This is a short post.
I've got a plate called, "overflowing" stuck in the oven that is "overwhelmed".
But I wanted to tell you about what happened last week.
I posted this on facebook:
I posted it quickly, without thinking. I posted it because I thought it was funny.
My friend's husband wrote a short comment, wondering why I posted that and challenged me in it's accuracy. I wish I had copied his comment before I, ashamed, hastily deleted the whole thread. His comments were poignant.
On his own page, he wrote,
Time to rant a bit here…
Every day that I check Facebook, I am bombarded by flippant sexist images and posts by many of my female friends. Most of these liberally attribute the poor behavior of some men to apply to all men. I cannot recall ever having seen a similar post degrading women from one of my male friends. I like to think that the people in my life are open-minded, reasoning people. This is precisely why I choose to have them as friends.
It has become commonplace and accepted for women to openly belittle men in forums like this one. This is prejudice, just like any other. Is this really the world view you prefer?
Wow. Just wow.
The part that really gets me are his final words, "is this really the world view you prefer?" That's the crux of this all. More than the fact that I have no actual experience with beer-toting Mid-Husbands (- Mikey was beyond wonderful during the births of both kids; I fully expect him to be the same with Boo), promoting some stereotype that men are inept with things like that isn't a world view I prefer.
Absolutely not. For the sake of my son especially, I want to promote the world view that men and women really are like the wings of a bird and each wing needs to be strong to fly. Men are just as capable of nurturing as women. Men are just as good cooks. Men can clean. Men can do everything that is more traditionally delegated to women, and women can do everything that is traditionally delegated to men.
Promoting that type of thinking is promoting an outdated prejudice – sexism – that needs to get buried already. I'm glad I got called on the sexist joke I posted.